10.11.09

it is frustrating for me when there is an issue that needs to be discussed but nothing is said. communicating face to face should not be anything that we struggle with. from what i have noticed, people are quick to move towards technology to help them communicate - emails, ims, text messages, bbms, etc. what happened to the old fashioned way of doing things? meeting up to talk it out or at least a legitimate phone call?

while watching a rerun of grey's anatomy, meredith said something that answered my question...

"communication. it's the first thing we really learn in life. funny thing is, once we grow up, learn our words and really start talking, the harder it becomes to know what to say. or how to ask for what we really need."

why is it so hard to ask for what we need? we know what it is. are we afraid that the other person won't be able to give us what we need? or is it that we know that they are not willing to modify themselves or compromise? either way, communication is something that needs to be worked on. big time.

9.29.09

it is pretty common for me to hear someone refer to another person or situation as 'hopeless' and i don't think they understand the severity of the word. the word itself means - having no expectation of good or success; despairing - incapable of redemption or improvement.

i do not think that there is anything or anyone in this world that is incapable of redemption or improvement. people just have to be willing put in the work and effort to improve a situation. people also have to be willing to put in the time, effort and energy that it takes to improve and make changes within themselves. all people are capable of change and improvement, they just have to want it enough themselves.

you can take a horse to the water, but you can't make him drink. stop wasting time trying to get someone to change, they have to want to change for themselves. that does not mean they are hopeless, they are just not ready.

9.23.09

if i had more time, i would definitely double major and take up philosophy in addition to psychology, but since i don't, i will just settle for a minor.

currently, i am taking philosophy of the mind. every single day, i leave with my mind racing from the lecture/discussion held in class. today, the question we discussed was: how do you ever know what someone is thinking?

after much debate, the answer is simple - you cannot magically tell what someone is thinking by trying to put yourself in their shoes, analyzing them, or thinking extremely deeply about how you think they are feeling. private thoughts of the mind are overrated. what is not considered often enough is what is right in front of us, public behaviors. public behaviors provide us with the best clues as to what people are thinking. inner feelings are nothing more than public displays. now, i know you could be reading this and thinking to yourself, "what about the people that are good at masking how they feel? what about the manipulative bitches that pretend to be something or someone that they are not?"

that is when your skills need to kick into full gear. after experiences in life, one should and can distinguish genuine behavior from that that is artificial. some say that they cannot tell when someone is being genuine, or just simply do not see it as something that is possible. my answer to that is one of two things - 1. you just have not experienced enough, which is not your fault. in time, you will be able to tell if someone is the real deal. 2. you may just be in denial about what it is that you are seeing. normally, if you are really focusing on how someone is acting around or towards you, what you are seeing them portray is how they are feeling.

i thought that this made a lot of sense. rather than making excuses for someone and saying things like, "i know that is not how they really feel" or "i know they do not mean it", how about saying "wow, that is how they feel" or "it is what it is".

thoughts?

9.20.09

start of a new school year officially begins tomorrow

words cannot express my excitement

if school wasn't so expensive, i think i would stay in forever

i love learning new things every single day

seeing as how i work at a desk for a few hours a few days a week, i think i will be getting back into blogging - there is not a better way to utilize this time spent online

junior year - here we go

8.27.09

"why we feel what we feel isn't logical, it's emotional."

-carrie bradshaw

8.23.09

after watching a series of movies and television shows this past weekend revolved around love, my roommate and i were talking about the movie serendipity. the definition of the word serendipity is: the faculty or phenomenon of finding valuable or agreeable things not sought for. that would mean that everything is left to chance. is that true for love?

i honestly think so. a soulmate is a person that is perfectly suited to you in every way, shape and form. i think that how we find our soulmates is entirely up to chance and it comes when you are least expecting it. i am sure that makes me a romantic, which i never thought i was.

8.6.09

character is who you are in the dark.